I’ve been meaning to watch Prime for a few days since I first saw it on BBC iPlayer last week. After a lazy day, last night I settled down into bed and watched the 2005 romantic comedy, which I have to say, I thoroughly enjoyed, although I was kind of saddened by the ending.
the first meeting
Rafi (Uma Thurman) is a 37 year old divorcee who meets 23 year old aspiring painter, Dave (Bryan Greenberg) and begins a romantic relationship. However, unbeknownst to Rafi, her new boyfriend turns out to be the son of her therapist, Lisa Metzger (Meryl Streep). As Rafi and Dave’s relationship develops, Lisa eventually deduces that the new man in Rafi’s life is indeed her son, when Rafi tells her where he lives; and some intimate details. Rafi unwittingly divulges some pretty detailed and cringey details to Dave’s mother, not just their sex lives, but also about his personal family problems. Lisa eventually comes clean about being Dave’s mother and ends her treatment with Rafi, causing problems for Dave and Rafi, as well as for Rafi and Lisa, because Lisa feels betrayed. As the story progresses Dave and Rafi start fighting leading to them taking a break, when Dave has sex with one of the models that works with Rafi. Dave and Rafi get back together but then Rafi finds out about Dave sleeping with the model and they break up again, but then they reunite for the last time and Dave brings Rafi to meet his family.
This is the first time Rafi and Lisa have seen each other since Lisa admitted to being Dave’s mother, and they kiss and make up, confessing they had missed each other. The story ends with Rafi and Dave breaking up for the last time because Dave offers to have a child with Rafi, even though he doesn’t want to, but because he loves her. Seeing this, Rafi sees it would be selfish of her to make Dave have a child with her. The film closes having jumped one year and Dave deciding that he wants to move to Central America and spotting Rafi in a restaurant. They share a moment before he walks away in the snow.
What I liked most:
I am a really big fan of Meryl Streep and Bryan Greenberg (I mean, have you seen his face? This is one MAY-JOR hottie! Plus is voice is TO DIE), so when I saw that Prime was showing on BBC iPlayer I thought it would be something I would love to watch. That being said, I also have a bit of a soft spot for Uma Thurman ever since watching her in The Accidental Husband and loving her character. I loved Dave’s friend, Morris (Jon Abrahams), who for some strange reason was unable to get a second date, and so resorted to throwing cream pies in his dates faces. I also loved the family dynamic especially between Dave and his mother, and Dave and his grandparents. I was happy to see a film that showed how a relationship with a big age gap can work (although not forever) and it was refreshing to see a young man acting mature and not being a typical lazy 23 year who does nothing.
I hate to sound like one of those really opinionated people who pick up on issues such as race, but I really couldn’t help it this time. As much as I loved the film and the whole set up of Dave being Jewish, and so the real problems Rafi and Dave would face would be whether or not Rafi converted to Judaism, I really didn’t like what looked like the director and writer’s (Ben Younger) attack on gentiles (non-Jews). I feel that the fact that Rafi and Dave’s relationship ended in the first place, shows that no matter how much two people love each other, there is no way their relationship will work if they are of different races or religions. Now I know this isn’t always the case, just look around at the world or at other films like Ae Fond Kiss where two people from dissimilar backgrounds manage to make it work, but I didn’t like how Primeseemed to drive home this message of people staying in their birth-gene pools. Rafi and Dave’s relationship was not the only one in the film to show this; Dave’s relationship with Radjina (Eboni Summer Cooper), a black woman, also showed this, especially when Dave says something along the lines of “every time I’m doing something wrong I just imagine my Bubi hitting her head with the frying pan”. Not only did I find this a little ‘what the fuck?’ in relation to Radjina, but I also found it a little ‘whoa’ in relation to Rafi because it’s a little offensive to refer to your girlfriend as something “wrong”. On the other hand, this could also be Ben’s way of showing how ‘old-fashioned’ some people can be when it comes to inter-faith and inter-racial relationships. The other thing that I didn’t really like about Prime was Damien (Ato Essandoh) the porter in Rafi’s building. I mean, what is it with films and television series and having (black) porters who don’t smile or interact at all with the young (white) men who arrive in a building to pick up their dates?
is it really so hard to smile or be a little bit welcoming?
I wouldn’t have such a big problem with it if it didn’t happen all the time in practically everything. I first noticed it in one of the earlier episodes of Gossip Girl and it kind of twigged me then, but then I started seeing it happen all the time? I mean, does this really happen in real life? I would go on, but then I think I’d turn into those people that I really hate (ahaha too late?). One last thing, the thing I hated the most about this film was Rafi’s sandals on her first date with Dave. Ewwww they were the ugliest things I think I’ve ever seen in my whole entire life.
This film did kind of remind me of The Accidental Husband (which I thought was GREAT), but unlike The Accidental Husband, Uma’s character ends the film single. I hate to bang on, but I seriously cannot believe that Dave and Rafi did not stay together. Although the film was funny at moments, I really wouldn’t have billed it as a romantic comedy, but then again, what would I know?
So, if you’re looking for a nice film to watch with some light hearted comedy and feeling lazy (so that you overlook the little annoyances with the film) then this is definitely worth a watch. It stops showing on BBC iPlayer tomorrow, so hurry if you want to watch it there, or watch it in your own time online or on DVD.
Let me know what you think and be sure to check out the trailer below as well as Bryan’s other job as a recording artist. I told you his voice was TO DIE.